CUTTING THE TIES THAT BIND

This is a therapy developed by Phyllis Krystal.

We all have emotional ties with our parents, family, spouses, friends, work colleagues and neighbours and many of these are positive and uplifting. However, we may also have negative emotional links with the same people and these links can constrict our lives and affect our health and choices in life. In our culture, we have lost the art of puberty rites, which are designed to help us to move on from childhood into adulthood. Without these, we tend to continue to be held back in an extended state of childhood, or dependency on others. This therapy helps us to become our own person, in charge of our own energies, and can actually improve our relationships with those with whom we cut the ties.

We may feel emotionally blackmailed by others or that others are "suffocating us, draining us, driving us up the wall or making us angry". All of this affects our health physically, emotionally and mentally.

Going through a bereavement, a relationship or marriage breakdown can be a very difficult and emotional time where we feel we have no control over what is going on around us and we find ourselves unable to cope with the trauma facing us. As well as the feeling of having lost control of our lives we can also become very detached from those around us and can very easily become isolated. In an attempt to deal with this we often try to compensate by behaving in ways which are totally out of character which in turn can create further problems for both ourselves and others around us.
If we had the necessary skills to cope with the emotional stress from its outset, although the feelings of grief or loss will not disappear, we would be able to manage them far better and reduce the overall impact.

Fortunately we have Phyllis Krystal to thank for giving us a key to opening the door and releasing ourselves. This is another form of Emotional Freedom.

Sessions are on a one to one basis and you will discuss with the therapist the issues involved. The therapist will help you to reveal the full picture and bring the appropriate issue to the surface. The second part of the therapy is in focusing these issues and seeing, sensing or feeling them as ties between yourself and the person with whom you feel the need to cut the ties. A gentle but firm process follows, in which you cut the emotional tie with the person concerned.

Once the ties are cut you should gradually feel a freeing up on an emotional level. As these issues are deep rooted and have established themselves over a period of time.  There is a two week preparation stage before undergoing the session, so that each person's energies may be gently untangled.  This only involves a two minute process on waking and going to bed. This accesses the subconscious mind and uses symbolism which it understands and leads to cutting the ties in a more gentle way for both parties..